Stanky Ugly Unforgiveness

Unforgiveness is like drinking poison hoping it will kill the other person. Not only is that sad on our part, but how insane is it when, many times, the “other” person has moved on without a care in the world.

I preached this topic for my first message as a Youth Pastor back in 2005 knowing that many of the teens I was now spiritually responsible for had good reason to hold a grudge. This made it imperative that I preach a Word that would set them free. They could not
stay bound to the injustice they had faced on my watch! Many suffered abuse and would leave church each Wednesday night only to suffer it again. Their forgiveness had to be given for past offense and extended in advance so they wouldn’t become frozen in fear forever. Some students had even been hurt by previous Pastors and leaders and until they forgave and let God miraculously heal their heart, they would be spiritually crippled forever.

A grudge that we hold against someone ties us to that someone. Forgiving is not letting them off the hook or conceding that they were right. Forgiveness is God’s scissors that cuts the rope that binds and connects us to our “enemy”. Forgiveness is also God’s getaway car that gets us out of a mess and into a new area of our life.

Sometimes your emotions follow your actions. I must ACT and choose to forgive….then the emotion will change. We can’t wait until our emotions lead us to forgive or we will NEVER! After all, our emotions were the very part of us affected through offense and offense hates to let forgiveness flow freely.

You or I may be one decision away from breaking from our old cycle. There is no denial in courage. You have to admit you have unforgiveness in your heart and step into the courage required take action against it. The most common command in the Bible is “Don’t be afraid” or “Fear Not”. It is listed more frequently than any other command in scripture.

Stanky-Unforgiveness is just Ugly! It affects our stress which affects our sleep which affects our adrenals, which affects our belly fat production, which affects our attitude, which was already affected by our bitterness through unforgiveness. Whew! What a cycle!

Soon we have nothing nice to say or think and we want to avoid people, situations, and even taking care of ourselves. Cancer has been linked to negative emotions, sense of self and stress. All CAN and MAY come from unforgiveness.

I have been hurt and truly offended! I don’t want to be linked to the person to whom I have the hardest time thinking a nice thought about! My unforgiveness and bitterness keeps them close to my mind and heart.

A friend of mine, John Godzich recently said this about negativity:
“Mud sticks to the hand that throws it.”

Forgive someone today….then if you have more people to forgive, you can forgive them tomorrow or next week. The longer you put it off, the worse off you are…doesn’t matter to them, they don’t even know. Wash your hands today & cut the rope!

-“Been There Sonny”
Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry

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